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He said he had resumed exclusively heterosexual relationships since leaving prison, and he added: “I’m completely straight what happened then was just about having my sexual needs met, in a particular time and place, where I couldn’t get sex.”
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One heterosexual man said that he had had consensual sex with gay or bisexual prisoners “out of necessity”. When asked how many sexual partners interviewees had had in prison, numbers ranged from one to “about 30, 35”. Some men who shared cells had sex at night. They usually had sex in the cell of one of the participants or in the showers, during periods of association. Gay and bisexual men reported that while they were “fairly” or “totally” open about their sexuality on the wing, they were discreet about their sexual activities and relationships. Eighteen interviewees self-identified as heterosexual, four as gay, and four as bisexual. The former prisoners interviewed by Dr Stevens had been jailed for a wide range of offences. Her report concludes that a national survey of both the serving prison population and former prisoners, fully supported by but independent of the National Offender Management Service (NOMS), is “urgently required” to understand better the scale of consensual and coercive sex in prison. However, Dr Alisa Stevens, Lecturer in Criminology at the University of Southampton, was able to interview 26 former prisoners during the summer of 2014 – 24 men and two women. The Commission sought permission to interview current prisoners about their experiences of sex in prison, but this approach was blocked by the Ministry of Justice. Recommendations from the Commission’s two-year inquiry will be presented today (Tuesday 17 March) at a conference in London. Sex in prison: Experiences of former prisoners is the fifth and final briefing paper published by the Commission, which was established by the Howard League for Penal Reform and includes eminent academics, former prison governors and health experts. Martijn says that he still gets some of that insecurity when visiting a gay bar where most of the guys are ‘muscled, defined or slim’ but that he is no longer ashamed of the way he looks.The Commission on Sex in Prison’s final report, published today (Tuesday 17 March), features accounts from former prisoners speaking for the first time about their experiences of sex behind bars. ‘Maybe two or three years ago was the first time when I looked in the mirror and actually thought: “You actually look kind of hot today.”‘ ‘Gradually I started dating guys that I think probably would call themselves ‘chasers’ and who really, finally gave me the feeling that I was desirable, that I wasn’t insignificant, and that I had something to offer.’ When Martijn was older he started looking at websites for bears or guys that are into bears. Those two things just never went together in my head.’ ‘I could not equate being overweight with being happy. When Martijn was younger he would often fantasize about being successful and in those fantasies he would always be thin. He goes on by saying that some people would just send him messages telling him how ‘ugly’ he is. ‘I just remember being on the gay dating websites and having lots of guys really confirm the idea that I already had that I was undesirable.’ In the video Gay & Fat by Davey Wavey magazine editor Martijn says: ‘One guy sent a message to me saying: “Look at your profile picture, then look at my profile picture again and then decide if you really think it was a good idea to send me a message.”‘ Martijn, who identifies as gay describes being overweight and body shamed in the gay community.